I can truthfully say that what I am now is largely inspired and influenced by my mentors. They are some significant others that show me the path they have been through and intensively assist me all the way to the top. Some indirectly inspired me seven years ago to be a young hopeful pursuing study in Universitas Indonesia, some taught me to be a world’s class negotiator, some pushed me from behind to let me find my true self and reach my dream in international stage, yet all in all they have one thing in common: they nurture me to be they are really proud of.
So, who is your mentor?
I’d say it is important to have a mentor(s) in your life, people with whom you can discuss about your future and how to deal with specific challenges, who give you strategic advice, who show you the networks useful for your carrier, who will recommend you to his/her important acquaintances for school or job, and on the top of that, they are people who feel personally responsible about your success. Why? Because they see leadership qualities in you and believe that you can be someone in future, and they will wholeheartedly nurture and assist you to the top.
To learn the maximum gain for your mentor, make sure that they are reachable anytime for you to ask about anything. From how to win a scholarship to even random question about cheap flights to Bali. Let say, you can admire President Obama as your inspiration of from-zero-to-hero achievement, but if President Obama is not a Whatsapp/sms away from you, he neither will directly assist you day to day, case per case, nor feel responsible for your success in life.
Do not hesitate to share almost all to your mentor. The more you share about your dreams, passion, even your family background, the more they will understand you and give useful advice that cater your unique needs. For me, I can share my nastiest lost I am facing or my most shameful fear about certain obstacles to my mentors, and indeed they always have something to say because they simply know what you feel and how to deal with it, from their experience, their knowledge, and to some extent—the intuition of a pro.
Maybe it is too much to expect a single well-rounded individual that caters all you need to ask. My advice, you can have some mentors for every specific aspect of your life. Find one for your academic aspiration, one for your business and carrier, and another for your personal relations life.
Your mentor is your guru. And in the end of the day, they will stand in front of you, pat your shoulder, and say, “I’ve told you you can do it. I always believe you can.”Tags: assistance, leadership qualities, Mentor, Scholarship